Your marriage (or future marriage) will be the adventure of a lifetime. You will literally journey through clearings of joy and fulfillment, canyons of darkness and life’s challenges, and valleys of hope, passion, and love. You will push and pull yourselves through the balance of staying connected to family and friends while establishing yourself as […]
My wife, Michelle, and I met with a couple that were fighting about how much time they should spend at her parents when they visited that weekend. We tried to get them to agree on the amount of time. He said 2 hours and she said 6 hours. Eventually, they compromised. He was at 4 […]
A letter from our VP: The New York Times most read story of 2016 recently popped back up on the most popular list again, nearly a year after in first ran last May. As is often the case for the most popular story, the topic was love and relationships: “Why You Will Marry the Wrong […]
Counseling seems scary. But here’s a secret that could protect your future marriage- it’s not scary! See, it isn’t counseling itself that is nerve-racking (though seeking help does often come with a stigma), but rather, it is the knowledge that at that counseling appointment, you will have to be vulnerable. You will be asked to […]
Roger and Barb’s Story I had been in a motorcycle accident as a young man, and with a cast on both arms and one leg had to move back in with my parents to heal. My mom worked in a small snack bar and when she told the story of her broken son to a […]
Let’s raise a glass to 13 years of marriage. If you’ve surpassed that milestone, you probably won’t learn a darned thing from me, but hopefully I can make you laugh a little. So here you have it, my 13 hilarious lessons from 13 years of marriage. 1. It’s good to know the pecking order I […]
When it comes to marriage, expectations are one of the first things a marriage counselor, coach, or premarital program will encourage you to put on the table and address. Oftentimes, people don’t even realize the rigidity of their expectations, or how many they actually have! Adult couples often squirm in their seats when asked about […]
“We kept fighting and fighting and yelling and screaming and eventually we solved the whole problem completely!” Said no spouse, ever. One of the most significant tools I help couples learn to implement into their conflict process is the time-out. Though I’m sure this term makes you think of a toddler sitting in the corner […]
All marriages require work! Your marriage doesn’t reach perfection the moment you tie the knot, and your relationship won’t remain strong unless the two of you team up and make a commitment to work on it continuously. Life is busy, and it can be easy to let your marriage take the backseat when other people […]